But I'm here. And I take my victories in very different forms now, and celebrate the miracles with a lot more humility.
The healing of all of this is a great battle for me, but at the moment that I think "I just can't do it", I remember who I am and I get on with it.
Rich has been remarkable for a guy that is so...scared. I don't ever expect him to be able to be in the same room during nurse visits or procedures or anything else medical, but he has mastered the morning coffee tray, and keeping our home running, and tirelessly doing all of the things that allow me to just concentrate on getting better. For better or worse and in sickness and in health aren't part of our deal...but he's living it every single moment of
every single day and I love him even more for it.
The outpouring of love and prayer has sustained me. I read your comments over and over again and am still in perpetual awe to be surrounded by so many truly perfect friends. Thank you for that.
I'm sorry for the quiet, but this is what I've got for now. My strength lies in my gratitude for you, Dearies, so I hope you will come tell me all about the miracles in your own little corner of the world.
❤️❤️❤️
ReplyDeleteI think of you every day! It may take quite a while to get stronger and feel better but I know you will get there. Glad to know Rich is there for you.
ReplyDeletePrayers continue 🙏 Coni. One day at a time. God bless JB.
ReplyDeleteMy heart really goes out to you. You sound that you are coping as well as can be expected. I'm sure it will take some time to adjust but I have faith that you will. So glad you have Rich. ❤
ReplyDeleteThis is such a hard time. We're praying for you.
ReplyDeleteThe joy in my part of the world is that there is a Coni in yours! Your spirit is as strong as ever, just in need of some quiet time to rebuild. So glad you have Rich with you providing love and help and support. Elaine in Oz
ReplyDeleteSo glad you have someone there with you. He sounds like a peach. Have him give you a hug daily...no, once an hour from all of us, unless you are sleeping. 😀 God be with you both and you are in my prayers
ReplyDeleteContinuing to keep you in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteConi may you be blessed with strength and healing, comfort and love, grace and your sweet sense of humor. Prayers for both you and Rich.
ReplyDeleteI think of you every day. My husband asks about you. I had a little crisis of my own last year which required him to do things I never thought he could handle. He stepped up with warmth and humor. You’re in my prayer dear. God bless you both.
ReplyDeleteDebbie in Wisconsin.
Dear Connie I haven’t commented in a long time, but I want you to know I’m thinking of you. You have shown how strong you are. Rest, and in time you will adjust to your new normal. We love you… and thank goodness for your sweet JB!
ReplyDeleteIt’s Pam Coutant
ReplyDeleteYou can truly bless a man who will do what needs to be done to help you heal. I appreciate the days you feel well enough to keep us posted and know they'll happen when they happen. Continued prayers, hugs, blessings and healing.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you every day.
ReplyDeleteConi,
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you felt well enough to post today. It means you are recovering. Maybe not as quickly as you would like, but you are still improving. Prayers for you every day.
I am astounded and awed by your grace and strength. I hope you continue to feel better each day and can heal well in body and spirit. All of us are rooting for you and holding you close at heart. And our kudos and thanks to Rich as well - he’s also bearing up well to a heavy load. Please check in when you can, ~Ruth
ReplyDeleteContinued prayers for you.
ReplyDeleteMarilyn
I'm thinking of you every day and sending love and healing thoughts ♥️
ReplyDeleteHang in there Coni. You will continue to progress and feel better. Prayers to you and Rich.
ReplyDeleteThinking of you. Glad that you have Rich.
ReplyDeleteHugs.
Andrea
Today's miracles include the sun shining brightly even though it is cold, having plenty of bird seed so our feathered friends can eat to stay warm, and of course having friends and stitching to keep me company. Stay strong, Coni.
ReplyDeleteConi, you may be physically diminished at the moment, your body may work somewhat differently than it did: but, you are still you! You are the same capable, funny, loving person you have always been. A change in how the plumbing works will never change who you are. Rich loved you "before" and he loves you now--everyone else does too. You are still you!!!
ReplyDeleteI think of you often & pray that you are healing. You are stronger than ever & will make it through. So glad that Rich is there to comfort you.
ReplyDeleteI am so happy to hear that Rich is with you and I know that you are a very strong person. Sending prayers and admiration for your good attitude.
ReplyDeleteContinued thoughts and prayers for you and for Rich during this time, Coni. You will conquer this and come out stronger. And dear Coni, you don't need to apologize for being quiet. Your tribe is here and will be here for you. Love you!
ReplyDeleteIt's nice to hear from you Coni. I'm glad you have Rich. He sounds like a stand up guy and he's there for you.
ReplyDeleteAs I read this from you - "I remember who I am and I get on with it."
I thought, "There she is. There's that part of her that will get her to where she needs to be.
Take care and all the best to you.
It's so wonderful to see this post from you, Coni. Thank God for Rich and the blessing he is in your life. Sending continued prayers for healing and health. Big hugs.
ReplyDelete56steps: I had similar thought while reading Coni's message.
ReplyDeleteConi: thanks so much for your message. I had hoped you were quietly adjusting/adapting and healing. I just can't imagine everything you're going through. I'm sure it must feel incredibly overwhelming sometimes. I think about you and say prayers for you every day. I'll light another prayer candle at church.
Hugs to Rich. He's a precious jewel. Please don't ever let him forget that.
My miracle today: it didn't snow again this morning. Am truly grateful today for loving family, home, warmth.
Gentle hugs to you, --Lynn in South Jersey
Isn't is so very amazing that God puts the right people in our lives at the right time? How He can do this all over the world for all 7 billion of us astounds me over and over again! He is in the details of our lives constantly. Yes, I agree with you and everyone else. Thank goodness for Rich!
ReplyDeleteA day with a post from you is a good day! I'm glad you are feeling well enough to write and doubly glad that you have Rich to care for you. All your friends in the "back of beyond" care about your progress and wish growing strength and health for you.
ReplyDelete“ For better or worse and in sickness and in health aren't part of our deal...but he's living it every single moment of
ReplyDeleteevery single day and I love him even more for it.”
After 35 years of marriage, my husband was diagnosed with an incurable cancer. Still he tried all kinds of surgery and chemos. I was by his side every step of the way. Once he thanked me for staying with him and said “this isn’t what you signed up for.” I was shocked because it never occurred to leave him. Not then or ever after that. What I’m trying to say is that love carries us all through, good times and bad.
Just recovering from surgery is traumatic to the physical body and a strain on the body. Once you have recovered from that, you can deal with the mental aspects as you adjust to your new normal. You can do this. Give yourself grace and plenty of tine to recover physically. Best wishes and strength for you and Rich.
This is the first time I’m commenting only because it never sends. I remember you saying Once you couldn’t even send anything to yourself.
ReplyDeleteI am sending prayers because they are what work. I remember my daughter getting a colostomy in her 30’s. It wasn’t permanent, just the years it took her to heal (3 yrs) and part of 15 surgeries in 6 years total. We had some very interesting situations during that time and what we did was laugh during our shock. The thing that got her through was a quote our neighbor told her after he had his permanent one and that was “The Only way out is through”. Yes, a double meaning for sure! Another thing that got us through was “This too shall pass.” We had and still have great laughs over some of the horrific situations that occured. I know it’s hard to laugh in your condition now but smile now and remember so you can laugh later.
For Rich, I truly get it. He is a saint. One of her surgeries occured weeks before I had major back surgery. My husband took time from work to take care of us. At the end of her recovery, he presented us with a letter of resignation. He quit! He was going back to work to get a rest! I was able to be alone plus had friends helping at that point. So they are saints when we need them to be and then God gives them the rest they need. So I will continue to pray, also that this actually sends.
Remember you’re plodding and slow now but that’s great! You are moving and that is walking you to healing. God loves you and so do I.
Marilyn on Caoe Cod
Yahoo! It sent. And that’s Cape Cod!💜💜💜
ReplyDeleteConi, my miracle has happened daily for 12 years this month. In February 2014, my femur pushed through the acetabulum and shattered my pelvis. My husband of 44 years looked at me and simply said, “We will get through this together.” Following days of agonizing traction, 8 hours of surgery to be put together with rods, plates, and screws, and 3 months of non-weight bearing rehab with PT ahd OT, I walked again. It was slow progress with a walker and lots of determination, but I WALKED. Each day I am thankful for the miracle that I can walk, even though I require assistive devices. You will continue to find the miracles of every day and be thankful for each one, no matter small. You and Rich will get through this together. He is a strong man who will use his particular strengths to support you as you heal. Prayers are lifted each day for the two of you.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you in my thoughts and prayers. - Sue
ReplyDeleteIt's a good sign that you acknowledge the little victories! Quiet is good for healing. Sending good thoughts to you and JB.
ReplyDeleteWe will continue to hold you up with prayer and positive energy and love while you focus on healing body, mind and spirit. You are covered dear girl.
ReplyDeleteConi, quiet is good. Gives God time to reassure you that he's there. And the blessing of JB, and all of us who love you, and will support you, and pray you through this. We have too much needlework to work on, and books to read, and you will be back there soon. Stay strong, my friend. We are here. - Donna
ReplyDeleteI have and am and will be praying for you. I don’t have any words and I’ve never had this particular type of health crisis but after a really bad 2025 (health wise) for me, and drawing on our shared faith I can say: Feel the love and prayers being poured out generously for you….they were poured out generously for me as well last year and they buoyed me when I thought I was drowning. Looking back now, I can see God my Angel and my true friends were walking right with me on my journey. And when I felt like I wasn’t going to make God drug me along right beside him. Footprints of God and drag marks of him dragging me along in the sand….love you!
ReplyDeleteThank you for the post. Praying the healing continues : )
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