tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post9004661576347029798..comments2024-03-27T16:16:57.111-04:00Comments on SPINSTER STITCHER: DEAR ANNE.Conihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04019863597169674976noreply@blogger.comBlogger89125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-47500561163709319152018-01-24T12:24:12.546-05:002018-01-24T12:24:12.546-05:00Everyone cares in a different way? I just found y...Everyone cares in a different way? I just found your blog and have been reading posts from current, back to this post, thus far and I don't get the impression that you need any direction from others as to the seriousness of your current health issue. Anyway, it's a tough world out there and life has a way of tugging us under every now and then and your humor helps all of us survive the under tow. Actually, humor is a very important therapeutic device for healing so girlfriend, take it all with a grain of salt and keep on keepin' on as best you can!!!! Your incredible grace in the face of "this" is a shining beacon for the rest of us to follow!<br />Hugs from a your newest follower...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-38047862795441837442018-01-17T11:31:31.180-05:002018-01-17T11:31:31.180-05:00Oh Coni, I want to be you. I want to tell people ...Oh Coni, I want to be you. I want to tell people where they can shove it just like you did above. I will never understand why people like Anne need to be so mean for no reason. Khristine Doironhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13615745279877761656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-52292728169003749582018-01-06T07:57:10.741-05:002018-01-06T07:57:10.741-05:00Thank you, Lisa Long!Thank you, Lisa Long!Connie Anzelonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17152295034090115466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-41602178825038434132018-01-04T05:39:12.399-05:002018-01-04T05:39:12.399-05:00Oh man, I've just gotta use the "B" ...Oh man, I've just gotta use the "B" word here...BOUNDARIES. It never ceases to amaze me how so many choose to ignore them. As the majority of commenters above have pointed out, it's clear that Coni uses her blog and humor to deal with difficult, and very serious, situations. This happens to be the reason she is one of my very favorite bloggers. I don't think anyone really underestimates the seriousness of what she is facing simply because she chooses to poke fun at herself in the blogosphere. In my opinion, Coni is an expert at putting on, and wearing, her Big Girl Panties, and doesn't need anyone's advice in that regard. Anne, you may have been well-intentioned, but come on! How would it have made you feel to have been called out when you were in the midst of dealing with cancer? I sense that perhaps you're not very good at reading between the lines or picking up on subtleties. Whomever commented above that many of the best comedians are in great pain really gets it. Many of us use self-deprecation and humor to deal with issues which would otherwise have the potential to overwhelm us and send us hurtling off a cliff. Keep on keepin' on, Coni. Just do *you* -- that's why we're all such loyal readers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-39092954323768710202018-01-03T18:44:49.675-05:002018-01-03T18:44:49.675-05:00Wow. O, Wow. Can't imagine a letter coming at ...Wow. O, Wow. Can't imagine a letter coming at me like that - I'm sure I would not be as gracious. Some people don't understand the many, many ways humor helps us get through our lives. Humor helps us cope. Just because we joke about things doesn't mean that they're insignificant. Most of the time, most people pick up the fact that your humor is part of you and helps you get through life. It's when we lose that sense of humor that we're in trouble. I loved Stewie in his smoking jacket, looking for good deals on a spa. And if you want to call your port "Buzzy," I'm all for it. We all are cognizant of the fact that these things are serious. I'm amazed that you handle everything with aplomb. Don't change, keep up you good work!Ginny Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10964934336924921730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-74896925852632229482018-01-03T11:33:11.933-05:002018-01-03T11:33:11.933-05:00As someone with a chronic illness I also understan...As someone with a chronic illness I also understand that we have two (or more!) different faces. The one at home - sensible, organised and sometimes miserable! And the outward one - brave face and jokey comments, Miss Spinster Stitcher is that very one. So Coni, please carry on with Miss Stitcher's wonderful take on life.... it does me good. I think you "both" are wonderful. Happy New Year to you xxKnittynesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394678920439452954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-18032990624003077712018-01-03T02:15:19.878-05:002018-01-03T02:15:19.878-05:00My most favorite Aunt, Claire, had a saying she us...My most favorite Aunt, Claire, had a saying she used and tried to teach me. “Wait to be asked”..... really hard to learn to do at times, especially when I just am positive of what “you” should be doing, feeling, etc. When applied to your blog, I just can’t find where you asked us to critique your life or choices or feelings...did I miss it? <br />With that said, Coni, you are one of the funniest, bravest, most emotionally honest woman I only know, through the interwebs. I look forward to your posts and I hold my breath as you slog through icky stuff and smile with my whole heart when your world goes well. Please be just you, whatever version you need to be to do your life, one day at a time. Because if you can, I/we can too!eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16264245978544233083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-67033918945891441572018-01-02T21:24:04.869-05:002018-01-02T21:24:04.869-05:00Wow. Don't change a thing about yourself, Coni...Wow. Don't change a thing about yourself, Coni. You are amazing. <br /><br />I am not looking to excuse portions of Anne's letter. As someone else pointed out, she obviously cares enough about you, as we all do, to want you to survive this whole ordeal. She may be going about it in the wrong way, but we are none of us perfect. It makes me wonder if that was what happened to her during her cancer process. Perhaps someone (maybe even a family member) thought she was going about things in the wrong way and gave her hell for it hoping to "wake her up" before it was too late. She may not have had the level of community support that you have. It is never possible, or realistic, to think that we know everything about a person's situation. My heart goes out to both of you and I pray that you, Anne, and all the readers of this here blog will be comforted with a blanket of compassion. We need to be kind to one another even under difficult circumstances (which you have been, Coni; please don't take this as an admonition).<br /><br />May 2018 be a better year for all of us!<br /><br />Much love!<br />Deborah says......https://www.blogger.com/profile/08764625355472932603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-40596086533124534342018-01-02T21:10:13.954-05:002018-01-02T21:10:13.954-05:00WOW! I guess it takes all kinds! More power to y...WOW! I guess it takes all kinds! More power to you, Coni! Stay your delightful, funny self-you are enjoyed by many and I know we all wish the best for you! Prayers for your health and happiness!Franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05116512834579196401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-37064391094062505152018-01-02T17:58:05.223-05:002018-01-02T17:58:05.223-05:00I agree, as I’ve dealt with my own share of trolls...I agree, as I’ve dealt with my own share of trolls, and they do need to be brought out into the light, but where do you draw the line between exposing the troll and feeding the troll. I guess at the end of the day we can all agree that we love and take our friendships seriously with Coni, and that’s why we get emotional about things. She’s lucky and so are we ;)Karynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00597559321873073286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-51929756173135339142018-01-02T17:44:21.086-05:002018-01-02T17:44:21.086-05:00Hey Karyn if Anne felt so compelled to tell Connie...Hey Karyn if Anne felt so compelled to tell Connie how terrible she is handling her life she should be proud to have her letter displayed. This is a public blog so no one needs to be sneaky and try to make Connie feel bad when she has a serious health issue. I think Connie had every right to publish Anne's letter along with her response, trolls need to come out into the sunshine and be exposed for what they are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-65499852440616714662018-01-02T17:23:29.057-05:002018-01-02T17:23:29.057-05:00Oh Coni, I agree with the numerous comments of sho...Oh Coni, I agree with the numerous comments of shock and sadness for an "in your face" email at such an inappropriate time both seasonally and personally. I can't imagine what it must have felt like to read it, then read it again and realize that it was so very personally aimed and so very hurtful...for that I am so very sorry. The pain and frustration of having someone analyze you without knowing you sucks. Now, that being said, as your friend, and after thinking it through and trying to look at it from both sides (because we have all heard it said that no matter how flat you make a pancake it has two sides)...I'm left wondering Why did you feel the need to publish the email on your wonderful blog? I am curious as to what you thought it would accomplish...I am asking this honestly, as you know me well enough to know that I am a huge supporter of everything that you have been through, and continue to support you, without hesitation. Did you truly feel so aggrieved that the only way for you to deal with this woman was through your blog? It's your blog and you have complete ownership, not to mention your freedom of speech, but why hang her out there for your followers to deal with. Yes, you responded eloquently and honestly which she deserved neither, but you did it in such a manor that, to some, it might seem like a public hanging. I don't know this woman and I have no idea if she is real or a troll, but either way maybe she emailed you instead of public commenting to spare you the embarrassment of her allegations rather than to be nefarious.It just seems unusual for you to have reacted the way you did, I get that she said some really horrible things that touched some nerves and kicked you while you were down, unacceptable, but you don't know her motives or her life lessons that led her to feel convicted to email you. Was it right of her? No. Was it productive, sensitive and supportive? No. But, was it really worth the 60+ comments that it achieved?<br />That's all I've got...I invite no hate mail or comments as I'm just asking what many who haven't commented are wondering.<br />As always, I'm sending lots of hugs!Karynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00597559321873073286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-91195214374004289512018-01-02T16:53:16.893-05:002018-01-02T16:53:16.893-05:00There is always one that has to ruin things, I am ...There is always one that has to ruin things, I am dealing with kidney issues and believe me I see people all the time that dont take care of their health, smoking, drinking, way over weight and from what I can tell about Connie, is she takes excellent care of herself and follows what her Doctors are telling her.Accidentally bending your arm does not qualify as sabotage, honestly I think Anne you are nuts, and Jackie mind your business, Connie can express herself however she wants, most people that are always correcting others have a mess in their own life! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-47831388213026493932018-01-02T16:39:32.998-05:002018-01-02T16:39:32.998-05:00Happy New Year! I hope that 2018 brings you many ...Happy New Year! I hope that 2018 brings you many wonderful and happy adventures. Take care! <3<br /><br />CherylCheryl WNChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14319637248841644703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-28010022542118650512018-01-02T13:56:12.298-05:002018-01-02T13:56:12.298-05:00With so many posts blasting Anne, I'd like to ...With so many posts blasting Anne, I'd like to give a word of support. While I think she may have worded her post a little strongly I think that sometimes humor isn't a good idea. People who read this blog regularly know that Coni's humor and her "characters" are a little off beat - and we love her for it. But we do worry. It might be nice to post once in a while something like this: "seriously you guys, this is really hard but I appreciate being able to tell you about it in a way that makes me feel better. I know you worry so here is the scoop: . . . . . ".<br /><br />That said - this is your blog and you have a right to present yourself however you wish. Anne wants you to appear more serious and that is also her right. She shouldn't be shamed for it or blasted like she is here. She reached out privately, which was appropriate.<br /><br />So let's all back off a little. We want Coni to be who she is but Coni, maybe a post every now and then that is more serious would help us all worry a little less.<br /><br />Happy New Year to all and let's continue to make beautiful art with our stiches.<br /><br />Jackie<br />ps: I can't figure out how not to be Anonymous eitherAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-33556241788471933652018-01-02T13:54:35.881-05:002018-01-02T13:54:35.881-05:00Hope you and JB have a wonderful New Year, Coni!! ...Hope you and JB have a wonderful New Year, Coni!! And hope that "Buzzy" decides to behave himself so that you can get on with dialysis and hopefully finding a new kidney. You are so inspirational with how you deal with the things in your life. Keep it up! We all love you!!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12804080444910316794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-4376756413409142792018-01-02T13:46:01.202-05:002018-01-02T13:46:01.202-05:00Coni! You know my thoughts and you have this figu...Coni! You know my thoughts and you have this figured out! You do what you have to do and know that you have a group of stitchers who are here for you and will do anything for you. (You know who I mean!) I wish you and JB the Best for 2018! Hugs!!! Linda B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14714881669291734469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-27575372633064208712018-01-02T13:21:27.270-05:002018-01-02T13:21:27.270-05:00Go Coni! Bam you told her! Keep on keeping on and ...Go Coni! Bam you told her! Keep on keeping on and happy new year 🎊 Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14761631895299111550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-19252105707076667502018-01-02T12:04:52.960-05:002018-01-02T12:04:52.960-05:00Your Kait sounds wonderful. I am sorry for your lo...Your Kait sounds wonderful. I am sorry for your loss. Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17089254294165504439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-8531051384096544342018-01-02T11:45:27.547-05:002018-01-02T11:45:27.547-05:00Bumblefuck. I love that term and am adding it to ...Bumblefuck. I love that term and am adding it to my repertoire.<br /><br />Keep on keepin' on, Coni. Happy New Year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-63048469240978882742018-01-02T11:32:47.592-05:002018-01-02T11:32:47.592-05:00Wow. All I can say is wow. My mouth just dropped t...Wow. All I can say is wow. My mouth just dropped to the floor when I read this. I can't figure her out. Does she genuinely care and just has the finesse and tact of an alley cat or is she just a hater. I can't tell. But you certainly responded to her with GREAT FINESSE AND TACT. Sorry, but I agree with Kristen. She should just PISS OFF. Anyway Happy New Year Coni. Buzzy will sort himself out. Give him time.Theresa Yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16226952474166295533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-24384624607712711742018-01-02T11:32:03.341-05:002018-01-02T11:32:03.341-05:00Dear Coni,
OMG! OMG! OMG! I just cannot believe ...Dear Coni,<br /> OMG! OMG! OMG! I just cannot believe some people! She should know better than to attack another person whose shoes she has NOT walked in!!! Apparently being a cancer survivor and having gone through treatment taught this woman NOTHING!<br /> I lost my beautiful 20 year old daughter to cancer...after a very quick and hard fought 7 months of treatment. She, too, used her humor and words to keep herself and all of our family and friends in a hopeful frame of mind. She named the tumor in her belly Tyronne, yes she named her f*&$##$ tumor because it was REAL & LIVING and easier to fight with a name! I see much of my Kait in you. We used to sit in her hospital room and sing ALL NIGHT LONG for fun. No news channels or sadness were allowed as we pulled in together tight for the battles ahead. Unfortunately, our human bodies don't always hold the strength our minds and spirit do and she passed on to God in July 2005. Keep moving forward...we can only guess the battles you fight on a minute by minute day, but I see your courage, your uncertainty, your commitment, your love of life and the FIGHT in your battle with erf. You keep it up, girl! We love you and are in this with you! Prayers every single day!!! xoxoConnie Anzelonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17152295034090115466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-8340899949564919862018-01-02T11:28:37.407-05:002018-01-02T11:28:37.407-05:00Anne should be blocked from your blog, along with ...Anne should be blocked from your blog, along with Betty, and from your email and phone and any other way they can contact you. They have no right to offer their advice or opinions unless asked. We love Spinster Stitcher and Coni just the way they are!<br /><br />LIZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16049381517212388842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-2967128192294683612018-01-02T11:24:15.297-05:002018-01-02T11:24:15.297-05:00Wow Coni! You continue to be, to me, amazing! Th...Wow Coni! You continue to be, to me, amazing! Thank you for your blog. I do and always will love it. Your response to Anne was wonderful and I am glad you posted it here. God Bless you and yours with all good! Happy New Year!!! Love, hugs & prayers, Cathryn ♥♥♥blueladiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02287025833688878868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5007999093281954902.post-12581326994708981002018-01-02T11:16:49.496-05:002018-01-02T11:16:49.496-05:00First, Happy New Year to you and Jersey Boy.
Secon...First, Happy New Year to you and Jersey Boy.<br />Second, Regarding Anne's letter, OMG, OMG, OMG. With the exception of the chronic illness part (I don't have one), ditto to everything in Anna Van Schurman's post.<br />Third, You gave a wonderful response to her.<br />Fourth, You always amaze and inspire me. Keep calm and paddle on.<br />CarolynStitchinowlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02547209451120677277noreply@blogger.com